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One Of Life’s Secrets

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“Life is the journey, not the destination!”

At the end of grad school, I was given a copy of a book of quotes – an alumni advice book created for my graduating class. That book resurfaced this month when I was packing my apartment to move out.

Flipping through it, I read something that is timely for my life as I am transitioning from my original career path to another adventure I’ve dreamed of pursuing.

For a long time, my belief has been that some things are about the process, not the end result. But I had never applied that notion to life in general. Here’s the quote that got me thinking about all this (quote attributed to a Georgia Bulldog named Amy Haddix Cornelius):

Life is the journey, not the destination!

As I was approaching my graduation, and immediately thereafter, I was completely stressed about whether I had chosen the right major, if I was going to find a job I liked, if I had just signed my life away to a life in Advertising – when really I just fell into that major. My advice to new college grads would be not to worry so much about what you are going to do when you get out of school. Your major doesn’t limit you, it’s just a starting block. You will figure out what really interests you through the course of working at different jobs, and you may find you end up in a completely different field. And if you do – that’s OK – enjoy the journey!

Psalm 112:5

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“Good will come to those who are generous and lend freely, who conduct their affairs with justice.”

Psalm 112:5

This morning, I read this and found myself wondering about God. I was thinking about the notion that “good will come to those who are generous and lend freely…”, and when my thoughts turned to applying that idea to God, it made me ask myself, “If this is God’s nature – since the Bible is primarily about God, not us – what does God get for living this way? After all of His generosity and service and sacrifice and grace, what’s in it for Him? What does He get in return that would be worth such an investment?”

When I opened my mouth and put the question to God, an answer emerged:

it’s not that man or the earth or heaven has good fortune or blessings with which to compensate the Lord for His goodness. The fact is, the great blessing for God’s goodness simply is in His state of being who He is. Existing in generosity and service and sacrifice and grace is God’s nature, and I believe His blessing is in existing as that very being which is absolutely too marvelous for words. What blessing could be better?

Now that’s not to say man or earth or heaven won’t give honor to God for His goodness; the converse is true. However, I believe the greater reward for God comes as the blessing of literally being Love.

Article: “What Successful People Know About Weekends”

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Just the other day, I was remarking to a friend that failure to make plans in advance causes me to miss out on a lot of opportunities to do things I love and see people I love.

Maybe yahoo!Finance heard my comment, because it proceeded to feature a really good article on maximizing the potential of weekends by way of planning in advance.

The link below will take you to the piece. I couldn’t agree more with the point about making sure plans include the three categories of activities that make people happiest — the article actually named the same three categories my pastor spoke of in a lesson he taught years ago about maintaining one’s whole self.

What Successful People Know About Weekends – Yahoo! Finance.

Memo To Husbands

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Husbands,
when a stranger at the grocery store tells your wife she is beautiful, her reaction may be a reflection of you.

Does she blush like she hasn’t been spoken to that way in years?
Or does she reply dismissively, “I know that – my husband tells me constantly.”

Things To Know About Introverts

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If you look up the word “introvert” in the dictionary, you will see this:

Yours truly.

What can I say – I’m an internal person.

Anyway, it was interesting to me that the Psychology Today website featured a list of 7 things extroverts should know about their introverted friends, and I thought most of the list was spot on. Would you like to know my favorites from the list?

A few things to know about introverts…

#2 We aren’t judging anyone when we sit quietly. We’re just sitting quietly, probably enjoying watching extroverts in action.

Definitely true. I have learned that when I’m new to a group, my silence may make some people feel insecure. It’s weird that people are struck that way, but I can’t change it, though I wish I could. And in those situations, there are times people try to get me to talk more so they can minimize their insecure feelings. Of course, once my random or wacky thoughts are verbalized, those people may wish they had let me remain quiet.

#3 If we say we’re having fun, we’re having fun, even though it might not look that way to you.

Also true. My excitement and intensity don’t always appear on the surface – a lot of the time, they are within.

#5 If you want to hear what we have to say, give us time to say it. We don’t fight to be heard over other people. We just clam up.

This is almost a direct quote from my life. Why should I have to exert myself just to be given the group’s attention so I can express myself? Doesn’t make sense; doesn’t interest me. This is part of the reason a smaller group or a one-on-one encounter usually seems preferable to big groups. Big groups have too many people trying to be seen and heard and considered clever by the others.

For more on the subject, go here:

Seven Things Extroverts Should Know About Introverts (and Vice Versa) | Psychology Today.

These Are The Best Things In Life

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In recent years, I have realized that the best things in life begin with the letter “F”. Allow me to make a list for you here.

Faith

I don’t even know how to use only a few words to sum up the importance of this. Christian faith is the thing through which we are connected to God, and God is…well, ultimate.

Family

Yes, each one is looney, and each one comes with its share of baggage, but I learned while studying to become a counselor that family is a very powerful thing. It has strengths that can preserve or change lives for the better.

Friends

Who doesn’t like friends? Friends are even better than cookies, and I can’t say that about many things. In the last two weeks, I have seen friendship do nifty stuff like this:

  • provoke someone to take an appropriate risk
  • produce a celebratory event in honor of a great accomplishment
  • help someone get out of the dumps and go have fun after a breakup
  • lead someone t0 place a telephone call to ask for prayer during a personal struggle

Football on Saturdays

O joy! I honestly feel I could write a love sonnet about college football right now.

Finances

Money skills can be a preventative measure for stress and a tool for helping other people reach their goals.

Female human beings

I think females are more confusing than anything else under the sun, and I also think they are probably God’s most wondrous creation.

Fitness

To once again quote whoever said this, “Your body is the most valuable machine you will ever own.”

Free (or inexpensive…or deservedly-costly) arts experiences

What would life be without movies, music, literature, et cetera? I would venture to say everybody in the world probably likes at least one art form. Even the man who enjoys nothing other than food is a fan of culinary art!

Fishing

Don’t get me wrong – I definitely want to catch something when I go to the fishing hole. But even if a couple of hours go by and I don’t get any bites except for mosquito bites, there is still something so peaceful about being on the water in the quiet.

*Honorable mention goes to another special thing that begins with “F” – followers who subscribe to one’s blog!